Let me start by saying that dating in your late twenties is not fun at all, throw in doing it online and it becomes pure torture. Between weeding through all of those profiles, examining their pictures and reading the cliff notes version of their best attributes it’s starting to feel like a second job. I’ve been on Bumble online dating app for about two months after getting off of Tinder (🤦🏾♀️) and baybay let me tell you the things that some of these guys say is wild! I’ve encountered so many guys who I’ve barely spoken two words to ask me if I’m down for sex, like are you serious? And don’t even get me started on the ones with fetishes, because some of them will blow your mind. But let me get back to the guys that are in my inbox looking for sex when my profile clearly states that I’m not looking for fwb or a one night stand but clearly they think they can change my mind. Don’t get me wrong there are some really nice guys on there with a lot of potential but usually there isn’t any chemistry between us or the conversation just fades out. So now here I am trying to decide on whether I should continue online dating in hopes of meeting the right man for me, even though I’ve encountered so many duds or do I get off of this dating app and try my luck the old fashion way? It’s a tough decision but one thing I know for sure is that being single is not as fun as it was when I was 21, and now that I’m 29 I want something serious and long lasting, even if that means kissing a lot of frogs until I get my Prince.
So as you can see from the title of this post I’m going to be talking about the joys of dating in your 20s. In case you haven’t realized I’m being sarcastic because let’s face it, dating in your 20s sucks. Don’t get me wrong dating at any age can be such a task but it seems like when you reach this particular age group it becomes more of a task. You meet so many different men that always comes with their best face on in hopes of impressing so that they can ultimately hookup with you. It usually starts off so well and they always have so much potential until BAM!!! That facade that they had up falls and you see them for who they truly are. Now don’t misunderstand what I’m saying, I know that there are some really genuine and amazing men out there but from my past dating experiences, especially with this past year living on the east coast I’ve only come across some major duds and a lot of emotionally unavailable men. So now that my 29th year is a week away I started thinking when will I meet someone that is actually worth my time? On paper I have the markings of a successful and well rounded individual and I consider myself to be an attractive individual so it begs the question, why haven’t I met the right person? I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s because of the pond that I’m fishing in, I need to cast a wider net, so I’ve decided to try my hand at online dating. No I’m not talking about Tinder or Plenty of fish, I’m talking either Match.com or Eharmomy where there have professionals that will help me get out of my own way. I’m hoping that this will help me meet someone because I’m over this dating game and I’m ready to meet someone that I can spend the rest of my life with. So wish me luck!